I am a fan of volleyball. I enjoy the game, as it requires specific skills, and unless you are at the Olympics, is easy on the aging and lazy bodies of dads out there. But it’s been a while since I played (last time was a couple of years after getting married), and out of the blue, some people, in the community I live in, decided to throw a game. Excitement overtook me, and i’ve been trying to catch up to it.
On the evening of the game, I did catch up to the other 8 people, 4 from the male gender and 4 from the female. That is my perception at least. Had I been on something, I would have sworn that something out of the ordinary was pointing me to notice certain things. I can’t explain how I was guided to look at them, but will try to explain what it is I saw.
Dad-Driven Association!
What does that even mean? This term will be clearer by the end of this post.
As with any volleyball game, each side gets 3 attempts using their arms and hands mainly to receive-pass-smash the ball over the net gaining a point if the other side can’t repeat. Every once in a while, a ball would happen to be falling between two players, who must rapidly communicate and agree who’s gonna get that ball before it hits the ground.
After several of such occurrences during the game, I have come upon preliminary dad-driven associations linking behavior to different “ball-in-between” scenarios. The ball falling between two ladies (let’s call this scenario A) results in a scenario different from one falling between two guys (This will be scenario B), which leads to yet another scenario different from one falling between a lady and a guy (Scenario C).
Dad-Driven Analysis!
Well, but what is it that is in need of an analysis based on where the ball falls? I will be introducing risk factors to better explain. In scenario A, this factor increases dramatically. This means that there is higher risk of collision between two ladies who must communicate and agree on who’s getting the ball. The increased risk is attributed figuratively to the “agree” part of the situation, as both scream “mine” repetitively while relentlessly pushing towards the ball, risking a collision.
In scenario B, the risk factor is very low. Contrary to scenario A, the guys fail at the communication level, and do not reach the agreement phase required in this scenario. The ball falls right between them. Its like the press of a button; ball presses ground, and the two guys start to communicate. “I thought you were gonna take it”, says the first, “oh no, i thought you were”, replies the second. I mean, amazing, right? The low risk is figuratively attributed to delay of the “communication” part.
In scenario C, the risk factor is variable. As the ball is approaching, the man and woman communicate successfully. However, the communication will result in 2 different outcomes. If she starts yelling “mine” repeatedly, the situation attracts very small risk, as she rushes to hit the ball. Communication and agreement are figuratively successful, being one-sided that is, and a low risk factor ensues. However, if instead, she yells “it’s yours”, the man fumbles and introduces intermediate risk as he leaps to get the ball before it touches the ground. The action seems delayed to not create risk, basically at the moment the ball hits the ground, but fast enough to ensure a near-instant acknowledgement of “it’s yours”.
Dad-Driven Interpretation!
There are other scenarios, however, with different control factors, but the three described above are the most common and recurring ones. Their implication brings out wisdom about behavior between men and women, and more so if the men are in a contractual relationship. Women clearly are prone to high risk situations, based on their innate natural responses to given stimuli. Men are prone to low risk situations based on their innate preservation responses to those same stimuli. Mind you, both are sub-conscious whilst in normal emotional state. Yes, we both are unaware of these things happening.
Such naturally occurring situations between the 2 genders provide ample explanations to certain aspects in our relationships. The woman will always lean towards high-risk situations, while the man will always lean towards lower-risk ones.
Dad-Driven Conclusion!
I must conclude with one hypothesis: “Men subconsciously maintain stability in a relationship” by instinct perhaps. When it comes to relationships, our biology is built to ensure longevity rather than dominance. Throughout our lives, our biological responses change based on upbringing and many other external influences, but it invariably leads me to believe that those instinctive behaviors both genders exhibit, if unaltered will result in long and constructive relationships, despite the million but minion annoyances they introduce. Our slow responses, actions and reactions (again, during a balanced emotional state) dampen overall situations, and reduce repercussion severity!
For the Skeptic!
Now, if you play volleyball, and witness two men exhibiting high-risk behavior causing a collision when the ball is between them, rest assured that the only explanation is that neither one of them noticed the other’s attempt at going after the ball, preventing them from delaying the communication, thus action, they are supposed to go through in such situations!!
At DadEscape, we wish you embrace your low-risk attitude, browsing our site for amazing products rather than running errands your partner has asked. A few hours’ delay will improve your happiness. Later!!
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